NEW JROCK DYED HAIRSTYLE. CHEEKY JEZEBEL CUTE JEWELRY, 365HANGERS DISCOUNT DESIGNER LABEL WOMEN’S CLOTHING.

If you’ve been following my Tweets, you’ll know I got a new haircut and color. I also received some clothes and jewelry in the mail… a photo session beckoned. At Whole Foods? Why not? The Adventure Team already did a shoot at Trader Joes…

I’m digging the orange hair color, so my stylist re-dyed it in the same color. This time, the effect is more textured (compare with photos of my orange hair in April). The left side is a copper dark brown, split halfway down the bangs, just like those Visual Kei rocker boys.

Hyena t-shirt: gifted from Hyaena Gallery. LA friends, if you like Goth/eccentric art, you MUST visit this den of epicness. Remember our visit to the Pinky Violence exhibit?
Black fringe: from a fabric store in NY Fashion District. It’s a great way to spruce up a basic tee. You can wear it around your shoulders or sew the fringe to the sleeves.
Cute panda necklace: gifted from Cheeky Jezebel.

Sparkly black miniskirt: by Theory — an incredible gift from 365Hangers! The online shop sells designer brand clothing at deep discounts: absolutely every item is at least 70% off. The catalog is organized by size and the body shape system, making it easy to find something that fits. Browse the brands (including Anna Sui, Marc Jacobs, BCBG) on 365Hangers.

My red Angelic Pretty boots are still one of my most favored items. I got them barely used at Closet Child. And they’re comfortable.

I put a cherry sticker under one eye.

Dan Soelberg sent me his Gothic children’s book, Oddities of West Blankshire. Edward Gorey fans will love the illustrations of Victorian children in morbidly funny situations, each wittily captioned with a two-line rhyme. The limited edition book can be purchased here.
The anime girl ring is also gifted from Cheeky Jezebel. I can’t get enough of kawaii jewelry, and her accessories are both adorable and made by hand. More cuteness on her site.
Interested in having La Carmina feature one of your fashion items or Gothic products in an outfit post? Send me an email to discuss; I only blog about items I like and would personally recommend.
Come back tomorrow for your chance to WIN Dir en Grey concert tickets!! I have 5 pairs to give away…
Japanese Word of the Day: Jougi = Ruler (for measurement)
Song of the Day: Plastic Tree – Harusaki Sentimental
NEW TOKYO TV HOSTING JOB: DUTCH PEPSI WEB EPISODES ABOUT JAPAN POP CULTURE & FASHION! NETHERLANDS PEPSI PICK A NEW ADDRESS.

Time to spill the beans on my latest TV gig. (So excited, just can’t hide it!) Dutch Pepsi contacted me to be part of their “pick a new address” campaign. The host, Bo Jeuken, is travelling to Tokyo and I’ll be whisking her away on a Jpop adventure with my spooky friends. The cameras will follow us around as we try on Goth/Lolita/Punk clothes, belt out karaoke songs, dine at eccentric theme restaurants and nightcrawl til dawn… (Just a day in the life!) Pepsi Netherlands will make the episodes available online, so don’t worry — you won’t miss any of the fun.

You may see us soon on Jingu Bridge, the famous Harajuku hangout for cosplayers…
Dress: Carina e Arlequin, from Closet Child
Leather jacket: Bensoni
Purse: an old Hugo Boss, spiffed up with a Club Marz sticker and Takoyaki-chan
Lolita knee highs: Spider
Shoes: Leche by Yosuke, from Marui One Shinjuku

Professor Fearstone (head of Horror High School) took time off from terrifying youngsters to spend an afternoon with me in Harajuku.

Every Harajuku trip must include a stop at Kiddyland, the gimongous toy store. You’ll find plush toys and merchandise for every cute character in existence, including Miffy, Totoro, Snoopy and Moomin. A whole floor is devoted to Hello Kitty and her Sanrio posse. I got my cat, Basil Farrow, a “magical octopus” that’s supposed to twirl and swim in a water bottle. Instead, it sank and did nothing…

We stopped for red wine at Cafe de Pou. Not a toilet-themed restaurant, but a quaint European-style eatery. Professor Fearstone did a glorious sketch of yours truly with Sailor Moon hair. You can see more of his drawings here.

We kissed the stuffed pig mascot goodbye, and mingled with the Harajuku Goth teens…

Then we filmed scenes in Ebisu for the next edition of Horror High School, the comedy-meets-horror series set in a Japanese classroom. It’ll be released soon… meaning you’ll have a lot of spooky Japan videos to watch in the next month!
Are you excited for the Dutch Pepsi episodes? What type of wild Tokyo activities would you like to see us do?
Japanese Word of the Day: Seikatsu = Life, existence
Song of the Day: Cat Stevens – If You Want To Sing Out (I LOVE the film Harold and Maude. “What gives you a sense of satisfaction?” “Attending funerals.”)
SEATTLE GOTH CLUBS: CLUB MERCURY AT MACHINEWERKS, NOC NOC. INDUSTRIAL EBM GOTHIC EVENTS, PARTIES & CONCERTS.

While in town for the D’espairsRay concert (report coming up!), Rose and I decided to check out Seattle’s Goth club scene. Oh boy. Club Mercury ended up being the single worst Gothic party we’d ever encountered… Read on to find out what happened.

Hair: Rose put her hair in Sailor Moon buns, wrapped in fishnets and topped with bows — adorable!
Makeup: She picked up some of the feathers that fell from my black boa and turned them into eyelashes.
Jacket: Sex Pot Revenge.
Fox purse: She made it herself, like the mouse headband. If you’re interested in commissioning taxidermy accessories from Rose, check out her website.

Black bonnet: Innocent World, from Osaka (see store photos)
White jacket: h.NAOTO, from Closet Child
Dress: Metamorphose temps de Fille, from Closet Child
Tights: Vivienne Westwood, from Marui Shinjuku
Rocking horse shoes: from Refuse to be Usual, an eBay store
Bead and lace wrist cuffs: a DIY project

I heard Club Noc Noc, located near Pike Place Market, plays excellent Goth / darkwave music. The interior was sufficiently devilish, with leather seats and a red glow. But the music… 1980s Madonna? And the crowd… zebra jumpsuits and prom dresses? Apparently, we’d mixed up the date and stumbled into 80s night. On Wednesdays (Requiem) and Sundays (Resurrection), the Gothic and industrial DJs take over. Next time, we’ll show up on the right day of the week.

We cabbed to Club Mercury at Machinewerks, a “private club” with Gothic/Industrial and electronic music DJs. (To enter, an existing member can sign you in, or you can contact them to request entry.) Since we didn’t know we were coming until the last minute, we figured we could speak to the promoter when we arrived. Ha. The door people were unbelievably condescending; they cut us off as we explained, and wouldn’t even look us in the eye. Forget it: we were out of there. No big loss; we didn’t even hear good music playing, and the clubgoers outside were dismally dressed. Four thumbs down and two gruesome faces for Seattle’s Club Mercury. Don’t go here. It was more hellish than Club Hell!
PS: We didn’t expect to get into a “private club” — we expected to be treated like human beings. It would have been fine if they heard our case and nicely told us no. That wasn’t what happened.

A quick press round-up… Fan To Pro, a blog about turning your J-pop/otaku interests into a career, asked me six questions about my work. Exclusively Gothic Lifestyle (EGL) magazine also interviewed me; you can read the article here and after the jump.
PS: got some INCREDIBLE news today, involving TV and travel and Tokyo… and it’s for a major company. I’ll tell you ASAP, as well as show you photos of my new haircut and dye!
What’s the worst clubbing experience you’ve ever had?
Japanese Word of the Day: Ganko na = Stubborn
Song of the Day: Due le Quartz – Replica
GOTH CLUBS IN TOKYO, JAPAN: GOTHIC BAR HEAVEN, DJ CHIHIRO, TETRA & D’S VALENTINE. STRANGE NEW JAPANESE FETISH.

Ah, DJ Tetra. Nobody can do the “Death Note L” pose and emo hair like you can. Add a Swedish Barbie and incompetent minions into the mix, and it’s just another night at Tokyo’s darkest dance party, Gothic Bar Heaven.

Kanae looks like death (and that’s a compliment!). The ball gag choker is brilliant. Do you remember her falling over laughing and swabbing the lipstick from my teeth in this makeup video?

As Evil Queens, we treat our minions terribly. Naomi is not allowed to eat anything except stale Hello Kitty apple cakes from the convenience store. These “apples” are dyed bright red and green, and (surprise, surprise) taste like cardboard. Poor thing.

Yukiro dressed like a Swedish plastic Barbie doll for an ultra-Goth party. He ended up being the scariest person there.

Let me tell you about the latest and strangest Japaense fetish: strawberry fish. The poster of the couple embracing, while stroking a strawberry and slimy fish… DJ Tetra and his “sister” stared at the poster for about 20 minutes, trying to figure it out! Inside Club Crawl, hanging from the ceiling, was a fish fused with a strawberry. What’s going on here?

The Goth outfits that night were particularly frightening. I’m afraid of clowns, and Basil Farrow is terrified of belly dancers… and both were in attendance.

The fashion at Gothic Bar Heaven is grittier and less Lolita-elegant. Lots of spikes, torn up tops and fishnets.

The DJs played “Goth rave” music that I loved to bits. (I’ll post a video from the dance floor later). DJ Chihiro performed as well, and his undead singing is better than ever.

D’s Valentine (on the right) puts on some of the best Gothic parties in Tokyo, especially if you’re a fan of classic dark / cyber dance tracks. The events tend to be small, but the crowd is very much into the music. For directions, addresses and previous reports, please check out my Tokyo Goth club guide.
PS: I have several very fun TV/video projects in the works… might be doing a lot of travelling soon! Will keep you posted. Don’t be surprised to see me in your neighborhood.
PPS: I’ve been Tweeting news and articles about X Japan, Deluhi and your other favorite Visual Kei / J-rock bands. You can add me on Twitter to keep up with the latest.
Japanese Word of the Day: Tenno = Heavenly sovereign
Song of the Day: Diva Destruction – Electric Air (If you like Aural Vampire, you may dig this.)
TOKYO CAT CAFE, KAYAGA WEIRDEST BAR IN JAPAN: COSPLAY & TOYS, BIZARRE JAPANESE THEME RESTAURANTS.

A new day, a new video for you! As you may know, I wrote a book about Crazy, Wacky Theme Restaurants in Tokyo — meaning I’ve been to many strange theme cafes in Japan. In my latest video, I take you inside a Japanese cat cafe and Kagaya, the weirdest and wildest pub in the world.
Why do Cotton Bale and I look so odd? (You may remember my frien-emy from the Cupcake Duel.) We shot a video where we gave each other makeovers, but it didn’t really turn out… so all you get are these funny images and footage of us in the cat cafe!

Kagaya in Shimbashi is impossible to describe… the owner, Mark, turns the basic tasks of running a pub into a scandalous performance piece. He dresses up like a frog, serves shaky “joke” drinks and makes you sing for your supper. Is it genius? Is it madness? Watch and decide!

Then, Southern Belle La Carmina and Goth Cotton Bale visit Shinjuku’s Calico Cat Cafe. Many Japanese cannot keep pets, so they visit these theme cafes, where you can pet dozens of cute kitties and drink a paw-print latte.
Please check out the video above, and subscribe to my channel for more theme restaurant videos to come… including the Gundam (robot) cafe in Akihabara and a cross-dressing “dansou” cafe!

For address, full-color photos and hilarious stories about Tokyo’s craziest theme restaurants, I invite you to learn more about my book, Crazy, Wacky Theme Restaurants: Tokyo. Thank you so much for your support — I can’t keep doing what I do without you!
Have you been to a Japanese cat cafe before? If you need a Scottish Fold kawaii fix, head over to Basil Farrow’s blog…
Japanese Word of the Day: Batsu = Attack, punishment, incorrect
Song of the Day: Kagrra – Omou
GOTH FEATHER EYELASHES, STEAMPUNK LIP SERVICE SKIRT, GREEN LIPSTICK, FEATHERED BOA. D’ESPAIRSRAY VISUAL KEI CONCERT OUTFIT.

Rose and I made an epic road trip to Seattle for the D’espairsRay concert (full report and exclusive photos by yours truly coming right up). It was great meeting many of you there! We did dramatique makeup for the occasion…
Hair: I gathered the hair in the back and tied it over the front. The bottom is secured with a skull hair tie, gifted from Hellcatpunks. I put black and gold flower clips from Daiso on the side.
Eye makeup: I applied green sparkly eyeshadow with a wet brush (gifted from Sugarpill) over the lids. My feathered eyelashes are from Don Quixote in Tokyo: they cost way less than similar ones than Shu Uemura or Make Up Forever Professional. The bottom lashes are also from a Japanese dollar store, as are the gem stickers on the inside corners.
Lips: Outlined with a dark green eye pencil from Japan, and filled with light green Limette Smudgeliner gifted from Annabelle Cosmetics. Finished with a fake mole.

The Visual Kei concert took place at the Showbox, right by Pike Place Market. The bouncers were a little brusque, but we were saved by James of Sword Records. (A million thank yous for the tickets, photo passes and general awesomeness.)

Rose looks like she stepped out of a Goth Jungle Book: leopard print boots, taxidermied mouse headband and fox purse. She made both of the animal accessories herself! The best part: she put gems on the eyes to make the faces cute rather than creepy. Before you freak out, rest assured that Rose is an avid supporter of animal rights and makes sure all her materials are from cruelty-free sources… If you have questions for her, feel free to leave a comment in this post.

Vivienne Westwood jewelry always pairs well with Gothic Lolita dresses. Can you read the tattoo on her arm? Do you know where the song lyric is from?

We spent quite a bit of time tearing and pinning materials while dressing up…
Top: Muji
Lace mini-corset: Spider, a Hong Kong Lolita brand
Steampunk gathered skirt: gifted from Lip Service (buy it here.) Amazing “old newspaper” print and buckle/rivet detail.
Black feather boa: got it for next to nothing at a Paramount movie wardrobe sale.
Gold bead bracelet: made it myself
Tights: Vivienne Westwood, from Marui Shinjuku
Shoes: Leche by Yosuke, from Marui One Shinjuku

We’re standing behind the Gum Wall at Pike Place Market. Now that’s what I call a sticky situation. (Sorry, couldn’t resist…)

PS: please read my new CNNGo article – 72 hours in Osaka: an alternative and traditional “greatest hits” of the city. I included Fu-ki’s heavy metal Bar Midian, DJ Taiki’s Black Veil Goth party, and quotes by Takumi’s Heart. And cute panda bears!
What do you think of our extreme concert outfits and Rose’s fox bag? Have you ever tried feathered eyelashes? D’espairsRay coverage and Seattle Goth / absinthe adventures still to come!
Japanese Word of the Day: Ke = Fur
Song of the Day: reach up to the universe – S.T.A.R.S (Available from Hearjapan.)
OVERSIZED LADIES FASHION SUNGLASSES, CREPE SCARF, RAINBOW HAIR EXTENSIONS & DOLLY BOW HEADBAND.

Whether it’s summer or winter, I’m fanatical about protecting my vampire-sensitive eyes. Bring on the sunglasses — preferably oversized, and reminiscent of golden age Hollywood. Sunglass Warehouse sent me this pair of oversized celebrity frames with a square-ish shape and contoured metal temples. Aren’t they dramatic? The sunglasses come in several colors, and the lenses provide UV400 protection from the sun.

In addition to the Katie crinkle scarf (featured in this post), Affordable Scarves kindly sent me this Shane Tie Dye Scarf. Lightweight, tri-colored and with a slight ruffle — I’m not sure which summer accessory I like better!

My clothes are the same as in this post (I was heading to two events that day). I added a velvet hair bow from Spank and a vintage brown brooch to clip the scarf in place.

I got these light rainbow clip-on hair extensions for a steal. They’re good enough to add a fun burst of color. However, if you wear extensions that are meant to look real, I suggest going for the highest possible quality.

Here’s a better photo of my DIY nail art. Daiso’s nail art polish is the best: the quality is amazing for the price ($1 per bottle), and the brushes have a fine tip, making it easier to paint intricate designs. Basil Farrow seems to approve.

I’ll be sporting these sunglasses on my Seattle road trip to see D’espairsRay! (Full review and photos to come, of course.) What type of sunglasses do you wear? Brand or no-brand?
Japanese Word of the Day: Jokoeki = Nail polish remover
Song of the Day: Malice Mizer – Au Revoir (Currently happily playing in my head.)
OSAKA ATELIER PIERROT & CHANTILLY: CLASSICAL LOLITA BOUTIQUE. GOTHIC LOLITA VICTORIAN ARISTOCRAT SKIRTS, JSK DRESSES.

Right across the street from the Innocent World Osaka boutique is Atelier Pierrot. Since these are two of my favorite Japan Lolita brands, I had a hard time deciding which Shinsaibashi shop to visit first.

Atelier Pierrot’s designs appeal to me because even the sweeter floral dresses have a dark and mysterious edge.

The fabrics are sleek; the jewelry and designs straight out of a Romantic novel.

Atelier Pierrot’s signature style is this high-waisted, corseted skirt with tiers and bustles. I own a dark blue one (photos here).

The signature skirt is updated with vivid purple and green striped fabric.

We tried on a few Gothic hats and bonnets. In the back, there’s a section for another favorite brand of mine…

Chantilly, by the lovely Fumiko! You may recall that I interviewed her for CNNGo. The cage skirt, the diamond-print bonnet modeled by Sachi of Kokusyoku Sumire… simply Classical Lolita heaven.
For more photos of Tokyo and Osaka Gothic Lolita shops, take a peek at my shopping map.

Mein gott, you guys rock! Nearly 200 comments in the Kanon Wakeshima post. I enjoyed reading the stories about your first musical experiences; thank you to everyone who took the time to share. Alas, there can only be one winner… and chosen by random number generator, the lucky person is psuedohappy. Don’t worry – you’ll have more chances to win prizes soon, as I’m giving away 5 PAIRS of tickets to Dir en Grey…
Have you tried on anything by Atelier Pierrot or Chantilly? Do you agree they’re one of the most exciting Goth Lolita brands out there at the moment?
Japanese Word of the Day: Komadori = Robin
Song of the Day: Chopin – Polonaise in A Flat ‘Heroique’ (played by Valentina Igoshina in a court dress)
GOTHS IN HOT WEATHER: DOLCE & GABBANNA CORSET, CHURCH VEIL SCARF, GOTHIC VICTORIAN DOLL DRESS.

Summertime, and the living is… hard for Goths who want to shield their porcelain skin from the sun! My favorite methods are flamboyant hats, parasols and scarves. My current favorite is this pretty Katie Crinkle Scarf, gifted from Affordable Scarves. The fabric is light-weight and runched, making it easy to carry around in a purse. And it can be worn in a variety of ways: around your neck, on your waist, or as a translucent veil.

Corset: Dolce and Gabbanna. Got it for a steal, at a Paramount Pictures movie wardrobe sale.
Black lace “apron”: It came with a Peace Now tank top I got from Closet Child Shinjuku.
Vertical striped skirt: Algonquins, from the shop across Marui One Shinjuku.
Rose-patterned tights: I’ve had these tights for years.
Grey fabric ankle boots: gifted from London Underground Shoes. There’s a close-up in the first photo.

While doing my nails, I spilled black nail polish on my bedspread and ruined it. On the bright side, I think my nail art turned out rather well. Using fine-tipped Daiso nail art polish, I painted each nail half white, half black along the diagonal. Then, I swept across a contrasting stripe and finished with a clear top coat.
Rainbow clip-on hair extensions: I’ll have better photos of these in an upcoming post.
Yellow eyeshadow: gifted from Annabelle Cosmetics
Zebra band silver ring: gifted from Silver Treats (you can get it here.) The sleek sterling silver ring is handmade in Bali.
Crucifix ring: Guess
Purple flower ring: Closet Child
Kawaii dim sum bracelet: gifted from Komodokat (check out their cute jewelry and accessories for sale.)

For once, I’m dressed appropriately to be inside a church. Or perhaps not?
Do you wear scarves? What are your favorite scarf styles?
Japanese Word of the Day: Morumotto = Guinea pig
Song of the Day: Cowboy Bebop – Piano Black (All bow down to Yoko Kanno.)
HOW TO ATTEND A VISUAL KEI CONCERT & BUY TICKETS? FINDING A GOTH LOLITA JROCK GROUP OF FRIENDS?

Dearest La Carmina,
I’m hoping to attend Dir en Grey’s concert in New York. Except…well…it will be my first actual concert! I’m very excited, yet I’m rather nervous, because my friends and relatives have told me horror stories of their experiences, which included violent pits in the audience, being stepped on by some crazy fangirl, and some blood-shedding fight on line even before the concert! Are these even true? Not to mention, I don’t know how to get good tickets to a concert, what to wear, how to prepare, and whether or not to come alone! And because you have done so many concert reviews, I’ve decided to turn to you, you oh-so-wonderful Victorian doll blogger, you. So… PLEASE HELP!
Sincerely, A VERY troubled Visual Kei freakazoid

It’s J-rock concert season, my North American friends: D’espairsRay, Dir en Grey, and X Japan are making the rounds. I encourage all of you to go — your scene needs your support. And I can guarantee you’ll be blown away by the performances; these are Visual Kei legends, after all. (PS: stay tuned to this blog for a Dir en Grey ticket giveaway…)
It’s funny: in Japan, the process of buying concert tickets and attending a Visual Kei show is (in most cases) completely different. There are the dreaded Lawson ticket machines, mandatory drink tickets and assigned “numbers” that determine the order for going inside (meaning there’s no benefit in arriving early). True to the Japan stereotype, the concerts always start on time. And people are nice; they’ll step aside to let you move closer to the stage.

In the States and Canada, it’s not quite the same. Since J-rockers rarely embark on world tours, North American fans will go to great lengths to see them up close. Some will drive or fly out for one or more shows. If the venue is general admission (unassigned seats), hardcore fans will line up — sometimes camping out for 2-3 days — and run to the stage as soon as the doors open.
But you don’t have do this to have an awesome time watching your favorite Visual shockers live. Since J-rock is a relatively small, niche scene in North America, the tickets often won’t sell out (so you can still buy them last minute). Check out the band’s website; the tour dates should link to Ticketmaster or some other site to purchase tickets. If no tickets remain, try Craigslist. When the venue is seated, try to buy tickets as soon as they’re released to get the best pick. If you’re prepared to pay big for a good one, search for a reputable ticket seller. The last resort is trying your luck with scalpers outside the concert, but I don’t recommend this since you could get ripped off.

Determine when the “doors open” and when the “show starts.” If the concert is seated, arrive any time before the start and locate your seat. (Although it’s fun to come early to see the tour merchandise and audience’s fashion.) General admission means everyone stands in a crowd before the stage, or seats are first-come-first-served. Ticket-holders line up outside, and when the “doors open” time arrives, they enter the venue in order. Since it’s your first concert and you’re not concerned about being right up against the stage, I’d suggest arriving an hour to 45 minutes before the “doors open.” (Be prepared for the weather, as you’ll usually be standing outside!) At most shows, even if you arrive right before it begins, you can still find a place to stand around the middle of the hall (which is just fine for seeing the performers).
The violent dancing and crowdsurfing typically happen at hardcore/punk concerts, not Jrock ones (so don’t be worried!). And the audience at these shows is not looking to pick a fight. Simply be respectful: don’t cut the line or try to squeeze in front of people who’ve waited outside all day. The potential for injury decreases the further away you are from center stage. Up there, you’ll certainly be jostled and squished, and a random arm gesture might hit you in the face. I personally am happy standing in the side-middle area, where I can still get an excellent view without getting roughed up. Bonus tips: wear comfortable but tall shoes, and stand behind people who are shorter than you. And bring earplugs, in case the bass boom is overwhelming.

As for preparations… a VK concert is a golden opportunity to dress up, so go for it! (But keep in mind that the venue will get hot, and your outfit can get smushed if you’re up front.) There’s no dress code: some people will wear tshirts and jeans; others will cosplay Mana-sama. If you dress vaguely Gothic or J-rock, you’ll feel right at home.
I usually meet up with friends before or at the show. But don’t worry about going alone — nobody’s judging or will even notice (it’s not like being seated at a table for one). Concerts are some of the best places to meet new friends who share your passions for J-rock music and fashion. So I encourage you to rise to the challenge and go! I promise it will be a night to remember.

Dear La Carmina,
I start college this fall and I’m hoping I can find a spooky posse on campus. Where did you collect all your friends anyways? They’re all so hardcore awesome! Anyways, how did you get into Lolita and viz-kei style and get to be a part of it? You get to host shows introducing the world to this awesome subculture, how did that happen?
-Sunny

Congrats on starting college — it’s an exciting time for making new friends. My “spooky pals” are wonderful, and they often appear in photos because they share my love of J-Goth culture, fashion and music (and that’s the focus of my blog). However, they’re only one devilish cross-section of my friend pool. You may not see their faces on this site, but some of my closest friends are from high school, elementary and even preschool. And they’re the ones I turn to for advice, since it’s easy to get caught up in your own scene and lifestyle. Never take for granted your friends who think Versailles is a palace rather than an epic band.
However, it is amazing to have a group of friends that live each day as if it’s Halloween. The typical advice is “go out and join activities and smile” — but honestly, I think the most important thing you can do is build something to show for yourself. It could be a cosplay blog, a Steampunk jewelry company, J-rock promotions… When others observe your passion and creative contribution, they’ll naturally want to say hi, exchange emails, meet up, collaborate. Perhaps you could start with your campus Japan Club, or organize outings to J-rock/Goth events. Put up flyers, make an announcement on stage. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, which leads to next answer…

I started this blog for fun, to express my love of Japan subcultures and style — and the whole thing snowballed to today. I have zero family connections to anyone in TV/media, and have never hired a publicist or promoter. Every TV hosting opportunity (NHK Japan, CNN International, Travel Channel, Canal Plus France) arose because a producer found my blog and sent me an email. The TV people looked at my writing work, press, bio, photos, videos etc, and that helped them decide if I was someone worth contacting.
My dear ones, do the best work you can — whether it’s writing, videos, art, music — and share it without qualms. Know and be proud of your abilities. The bottom line is, if I took the path of self-effacement, nobody would know what I could offer, and I wouldn’t have had these tremendous TV adventures in Tokyo.
Now let me ask the rest of you: what would you advise these two readers? Got tips for making it through your first rock concert, or ways to meet alternative-minded friends?
If you have a question for La Carmina, email me (gothiccarmina {at} gmail) and I’ll answer it in a blog post. You can read my previous responses to Reader Questions here. (All the above images are from the music store and magazine stand in Laforet Harajuku.)
PS: last chance to win Kanon Wakeshima autographed Gothic Lolita postcards! Spread the word and enter here.
Japanese Word of the Day: Tsutomeru = Industrious, diligent
Song of the Day: Edith Piaf – Non, Je ne regrette rien (Have you seen Inception yet? A magnificent film.)
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- PEPSI TV SHOW! FUN PLACES IN TOKYO, JAPAN. ALICE IN WONDERLAND CAFE, SHINJUKU KARAOKE SINGING, HARAJUKU FASHION.
- TOKYO TRAVEL TV SHOOT HOSTING & ARRANGING: DUTCH PEPSI. SEGA GAME CENTER, HARAJUKU FASHION GUIDE.
- KENZO-A RITUALS FASHION SHOW: JAPANESE POLE DANCING, GOTH FETISH BDSM FASHION TOKYO.
- LADY GAGA JAPAN CLOTHING, PUNK ROCK LOLITA JAPANESE FASHION BRANDS. SINGAPORE GOTH INDUSTRIAL CLUBS & SHOPPING.
- BABY SCOTTISH FOLD CAT, NOT FOR SALE! NEW VIDEO: FOLD-EARED CATS PLAYING, SITTING ON CATIO & COMPUTER.
- MONOMANIA, WORLD WIDE LOVE, KYOYA TEDDY MONSTER IN LAFORET TOKYO. KAWAII CUTE JAPANESE JEWELRY, WOMEN’S CLOTHES, HAIR ACCESSORIES.
- LA CARMINA & BASIL T-SHIRT GIVEAWAY! SEATTLE UWAJIMAYA ASIAN SUPERMARKET, CANDY PINK SWEET LOLITA JSK.
- CAN CAN SEATTLE: ABSINTHE BAR & BURLESQUE CABARET. BEST ALTERNATIVE GAY LGBT NIGHTLIFE, MODERN DANCE DRAG.
- LAFORET HARAJUKU: GOTHIC LOLITA PUNK ALTERNATIVE BOUTIQUES, TOKYO CLOTHING STORES. ROCKING HORSE SHOES, BABY THE STARS SHINE BRIGHT.
- WIN DIR EN GREY LOS ANGELES CONCERT TICKETS! CLUB NOKIA, SEPTEMBER 8TH LIVE SHOW. VISUAL KEI J-ROCK GIVEAWAY PRIZE.
- NEW JROCK DYED HAIRSTYLE. CHEEKY JEZEBEL CUTE JEWELRY, 365HANGERS DISCOUNT DESIGNER LABEL WOMEN’S CLOTHING.
- NEW TOKYO TV HOSTING JOB: DUTCH PEPSI WEB EPISODES ABOUT JAPAN POP CULTURE & FASHION! NETHERLANDS PEPSI PICK A NEW ADDRESS.
- SEATTLE GOTH CLUBS: CLUB MERCURY AT MACHINEWERKS, NOC NOC. INDUSTRIAL EBM GOTHIC EVENTS, PARTIES & CONCERTS.
- GOTH CLUBS IN TOKYO, JAPAN: GOTHIC BAR HEAVEN, DJ CHIHIRO, TETRA & D’S VALENTINE. STRANGE NEW JAPANESE FETISH.
- TOKYO CAT CAFE, KAYAGA WEIRDEST BAR IN JAPAN: COSPLAY & TOYS, BIZARRE JAPANESE THEME RESTAURANTS.
























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